“Reality” Is Negotiable
Have you ever noticed how often people use the word “realistic” as if it’s a compliment?
“Be realistic.”
“Set realistic goals.”
“Have realistic expectations.”
Nobody ever says it with excitement.
Nobody has ever walked into a room and said, “I have a really realistic vision for my life.”
Because realism isn’t inspiring.
It’s familiar.
And familiar feels safe.
The funny thing is, history has a terrible track record of predicting what’s realistic.
Flying across the world in hours wasn’t realistic.
Carrying a computer in your pocket wasn’t realistic.
Ordering dinner from your phone wasn’t realistic.
Working from home wasn’t realistic.
None of those things became possible because reality changed overnight.
Reality changed because someone refused to accept the version they were handed.
That’s an important distinction.
People talk about reality like it’s a brick wall.
Most of the time, it’s drywall.
It looks permanent until someone pushes on it.
Now, before someone clips that out of context…
I’m not saying gravity is negotiable.
Deadlines are still deadlines.
Bills still have due dates.
There are things that are objectively true.
But most of what we call “reality” isn’t objective.
It’s social.
It’s cultural.
It’s based on what enough people have agreed to believe.
Think about careers.
There was a time when making money from YouTube sounded ridiculous.
People laughed.
Then people quit their jobs.
Now it’s a career path.
The facts didn’t change.
The collective opinion did.
The same thing happened with remote work.
With electric cars.
With buying mattresses online.
With hiring a stranger to drive you somewhere using an app.
Every one of those ideas sounded unrealistic…
Until they became normal.
That’s why I don’t automatically trust someone’s opinion when they tell me something can’t be done.
I’m always curious what they actually mean.
Do they mean impossible?
Or do they mean unfamiliar?
Those aren’t interchangeable.
Here’s another thing.
Most limitations expire.
Technology changes.
Markets change.
Skills improve.
Relationships open doors.
Money creates options.
Experience changes your judgment.
Who you are five years from now will have access to opportunities you literally cannot see today.
So why would you let today’s version of reality make permanent decisions?
I think that’s one of the biggest mistakes ambitious people make.
They confuse current circumstances with permanent conditions.
“I don’t know anyone.”
Yet.
“I can’t afford it.”
Yet.
“I’ve never done it.”
Yet.
That tiny word changes everything.
Not because it magically solves the problem.
Because it reminds you that time is part of the equation.
Reality has a habit of moving.
The problem is…
Most people stop moving first.
They decide something is impossible after one attempt.
Or one rejection.
Or one bad year.
Then they spend the next decade collecting evidence that they were right.
Not because they were.
Because they stopped testing the assumption.
Here’s a question I come back to often.
Is this actually impossible…
Or have I just accepted someone else’s timeline?
There’s a difference.
Some things take ten years.
Some take ten conversations.
Some take one decision you’ve been avoiding.
You don’t know which one you’re looking at until you keep going.
So yes…
Respect reality.
Understand it.
Measure it.
Plan around it.
But don’t worship it.
Because today’s reality is often just tomorrow’s before picture.
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